New book reveals secrets of fighting mental illness
MENTAL illness made Nita Saini feel as if she wanted to die.
But after seven years of suffering, four years on high-strength anti-depressants and piling on weight through comfort eating, she finally discovered techniques to change her thought and behaviour patterns, which transformed her life.
Now she has gathered them together in a simple, concise and easy-to-use book, Moving on Up, which comes with a CD designed to help change limiting thoughts and behaviours.
And it’s not just for those feeling depressed, it can also work wonders for anyone just wanting to feel a bit better than they already do.
Here Nita outlines five of the key points from her book:
- Focus on solutions/Focus on the positive: “Where are my keys?”Have you ever said this to yourself? This is an example of focusing on the problem – focusing on what you don’t want or what you are annoyed about.
The mind is fixed on the fact that you have lost your keys – instead, say: “I want to find my keys.”
This will give your mind a positive focus, the solution or outcome that you desire.
At first you may need to retrain your mind to focus on what you want.
Once you re-programme your mind to do this, it will be second nature.
Become more aware of your thoughts and what you are thinking.
If you think about problems, you’ll get more problems.
Focus on solutions. If you don’t believe this to be the case, give it a go for a few weeks and notice how much more smoothly your life runs.
- Develop an attitude of gratitude: When was the last time you said “thank you” for something or someone you appreciated? Either out loud or just to yourself?Do it now, say thank you for something or someone that is very special to you. Say it wholeheartedly and notice how this uplifts you and helps you feel more upbeat.
People in America have one day a year for giving thanks – Thanksgiving Day. How about adopting an outlook on life where you give thanks for 365 days a year?
Devoting even a minute a day to giving thanks helps you become more upbeat. Make it your daily mantra: I am thankful for…
- Affirmations: Have you ever said to yourself before a night out, “This is going to be a good night,” and it turned out to be a great night? Well, that was an affirmation. An affirmation is a statement (positive or negative) that you say out loud or mentally to yourself.It is a statement you believe or want to believe in. For example:
I am upbeat and happy.
I am living in a loving and supportive universe.
I experience happy situations and events in my life.
If you frequently say or think positive affirmations, with feeling and sincerity, they will eventually become self-fulfilling prophecies that can help you.
Writing your affirmations down on post-it notes to stick around the house, or having them as your computer screensaver, will act as a regular reminder of how you’d like to be, or what you would like to have.
- Smile More: Smiling is good for you. When we smile, we flood our bodies with happy chemicals.This is because when we smile we massage the pituitary gland at the back of the head, which releases the happy hormone, serotonin.
Do it now while you are reading this page – if you don’t find yourself feeling happier, I will eat my hat.
If smiles have been rare visitors in your life recently, you may need to force yourself to do this, however, the more you do it the easier it becomes.
You’ll find your smiles will spread, like the ripples across a pond. Smile and the world will smile back at you.
- Breathing: Breathing is underrated. We all need to breathe to stay alive so it’s pretty important.Breathing properly can further improve how we feel and it cannot be underestimated.
Give this a go – think of something that has been bothering you.
While thinking of this situation, breathe five shallow breaths. Quickly, in and out.
Once you’ve done this, notice how you feel. Do you feel more troubled about the situation?
Now, slow down and take five deep, abdominal breaths.
Breathe in for a count of five, hold the breath for a split second and breathe out for a count of five.
Breathe in relaxation and clarity about this situation and breathe out any concerns or worries.
Repeat this five times. Do you feel as if you can now deal with the situation and overcome any concerns more easily?
Breathing properly (deep, abdominal, steady breathing) does so much to help our state of mind.
A steady breath equates to a steady, calm mind. Take time out of your day to breathe deeply, to help recharge your calmness and also clarity – and to recharge your batteries too.